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3 Keys to an Aligned Path

SignpostWe all want many different things in life and, as a consequence, it seems we are so often pulled in so many different directions it is exhausting.  It seems impossible for us to have everything we want.

Yet it is possible.  The more aligned our path in life is to our true essence, to the most complete expression of who We Truly Are, the easier and more graceful our progress becomes.  There are three keys that can help us create this.  Each key is a point of focus on our path and if these three are aligned all things along our path tend to fall into place.

First key:

Our ‘to do’ list are things which we already know how to do, we just have to organise ourselves to get them done.  Usually these are things that we need to do over the next couple of months, at most.

Second key:

Our goals differ from our ‘to do’ list because they require us to learn and grow, to master some new skill or overcome some old obstacle.  That’s the point, actually, because our goals motivate us to grow.  Generally, most goals will take us two to five years to complete.

Third key:

Our dreams differ from our goals because they aren’t real to us right now.  That’s the point.  When we focus on our goals we’re generally taught that we need an ‘action plan’ for them and that we have to consider what is possible.  Dreams enable us to consider the impossible and give ourselves permission to play with the idea of what it would be like if we had a life which is currently out of our reality.  By allowing ourselves to play with these extraordinary ideas we begin to connect with them.  Without dreams we wouldn’t be able to grow beyond our current reality.  Considering what our life could be like in thirty to forty years is a good way to tap into our dreams.  That length of time is enough for our minds to be able to accept that anything is possible.

Yet oPath2ur dreams give an overall alignment to our life.  They enable us to find the best way to align our goals and our ‘to do’ list.  It is the long focus of our dreams which create the easiest and most graceful alignment of our path, and also enable us to go beyond our current reality.

Often in so much less time than thirty to forty years!  If only we give ourselves permission to dream of our happiest life.

 

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Effective Sleep

Sleep is one of the most important things we do during our day.  It enables us to heal ourselves, to recharge the batteries, work through problems and challenges at a deeper, subconscious level, and to rebuild our kidney energy.

Have you ever found it difficult to get to sleep?  Have you lain awake while your mind went at a million miles an hour? Or got to sleep only to wake through the night over and over again?

Or, alternately, have you ever gone straight to sleep and woken hours later, though it only feels like ten, with a deep sense of peace and restored energies?  A sense of such relaxation that your first impulse is simply to stretch out along the bed?

This first scenarios is due to first our system is in the over-adrenalised state of a fight:flight response.  We are hyperalert, listening out for the threats lurking around us.  This state has survival advantage when we are in hostile territory.  Unfortunately, in our modern world we respond in the same way to the stresses of work, life and relationshps just as we would have when there were predators or hostile forces nearby.

Even worse, as we get exhausted due to lack of sleep our adrenals have to work even harder to keep us going, making it harder for us to sleep the next night.  We’re not reaching the deeper stages of sleep, and this means we’re not regenerating and receiving all the benefits of sleep.  In fact, this cycle of stress-poor sleep-more stress is the same cycle experienced by those with PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder).  Unfortunately for many of us the stress of our lives has caused sufficient trauma to our systems that we are in this state.

In the alternate state we are operating from our rest: regeneration system, rather than our fight:flight one.  Our system is running off dopamine and endorphines, which represent the healthy and happy biochemistry, rather than adrenaline, which is neither happy nor healthy.

brain_wavesIn sleep, our brain cycles through the different states.  These are indicated by the level of activity, or brain wave, in our brain at any time.  The beta state is linked with stress and worry over stuff like the mortgage, or state of the world, or what we need to do.  The alpha state is anything from being relaxed but alert, down to when we’re dreaming.  We need to be at least in alpha to get to sleep and dreams assist us to solve problems but in alpha we don’t regenerate.   Theta gives us truly restorative sleep, though delta is deeper.  Most of us spend no more than a few minutes in delta in an entire night’s sleep.  We cycle up and down from alpha to delta through the night. In healthy sleep we spend most of our time in theta.  With more stress, the longer we’ll spend in alpha and the less in theta and delta.

sleep cyclesThe way to achieve effective sleep is to be able to get down into theta as quickly as possible and stay down there as long as possible.  As you can see on the right, in the lighter cycles we spend less time in the deeper states, and some cycles miss the deeper states entirely.  When we are stressed we skip over the deeper cycles and keep to these lighter cycles. This is another way of saying we spend all night wrestling with our problems.  One way to ensure we get into the deeper states is to find a way to put our problems aside during sleep time.

Simple lists can help us put our problems aside.  By writing a list of what we’re going to do the next day our mind can let go of them until then.  But only if we can put this list into a space which is associated with our work, and that is separate from our sleep space.  In other words, putting our lists on our devices, if we take those devices to bed with us, sometimes is not enough of a separation.

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In Fractology we understand the power of our focus.  This is the whole point of the glass being half full or half empty.  Of course, the simple truth is that it is both, but whatever we focus on strongly effects our attitudes and our experiences, and hence our energy, our health and our general enjoyment of life.  When we focus on what is full, what is empty falls away from our awareness.   Focusing on our own unique resonance, or by flowing appreciation to ourselves, is another way to help ourselves disconnect and reach deeper states.

The more we can support our system to reduce its adrenaline load the better we will sleep.  This is why exercise can be very helpful.  Recent studies of interval training has shown that it is a powerful way of reducing the levels of adrenaline in our system.  Interval training means doing just one minute of exercise at a time, but that minute is all out.  Doing this when we first get home from work is an excellent way of reducing our stress and assisting our bodies to switch off.  As they say we only need six minutes of this intense effort a week, in six lots of one minute, by doing it each day after work we can nearly ensure we achieve this level.

There are many other techniques, some of which work better for some people than for others.  The most important point is, as always, to find the techniques that work for you, that enable your system to get the maximum ‘reboot’ of your fractal system in those deeper states of sleep.  This is one of the ways we can all help ourselves to flourish.

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Ritual of Cleansing and Release

cleansingandreleaseThis ritual is an application of the Law of Exchange. Rituals work because they are like living symbols.  It’s their symbolic content which directly impacts our subconscious but it is the living quality of these symbols that makes them so powerful because it is that which effects our Body’s consciousness.

This ritual is particularly helpful when we’re wanting to release something that has affected our body, like some old trauma, or something we’re finding it hard to let go of.  The reason we often find it hard to let go of things is because we know, as soon as we do, something else is going to turn up in its place.  Unconsciously we resist letting go because we don’t know what’s going to turn up next.  It’s a case of ‘better the devil we know, than the devil we don’t’.  By using this ritual we set clear guidelines as to what is going to turn up next.  It’s one of the reasons this is so effective.

For this ritual you will need:

Pen and paper

A lighted candle

A bowl of warm water (you can put some essential oils or rose petals in it) and a washcloth

A safe warm space  (This ritual may be done naked.)

Prepare by tearing the paper in half from top to bottom.  This will leaves us with a left-hand-side piece of paper, and a right-hand-side piece of paper.

The left represents the past.  Write on the left-hand-side piece of paper up to (meaning no more than) 5 things you wish to release.  The reason there is only 5 is because this ritual works and if you release too many things at once it will create chaos in your life.  You can always do the ritual again later.  Remember, you can grow easily and with grace.  Give yourself the grace of doing so.

The right represents the future.  So then on the right-hand-side piece of paper write one (1) appropriate thing you wish to receive in exchange for each thing released.  We should have an equal number of things on both pieces of paper.  Something appropriate doesn’t mean the exact opposite of the thing we release, but something meaningful and appropriate for where we’re at in our journey.  For example, if we release guilt we may wish to receive peace or serenity, or confidence or power.  Or if we release greed, we may want to receive clarity around your purpose, or unconditional love, or abundance.

Once we have our lists we’re ready to proceed. The ritual is simplicity itself.  You can dress it up, if that would feel more meaningful for you.

To perform the ritual, light the candle. Burn the left-hand-side piece of paper to release those things you want to release.

Then do a ritual washing from the top of your head to the bottom of your toes. This is the pattern in which things tend to leave our bodies. A ritual washing can be done with the bowl and the washcloth, or even in the shower.  The main thing is to wash yourself with focused intention that you are washing away the things you want to release.

When we’ve finished our ritual wash,we burn the right-hand-side piece of paper. We do this with the intention of opening to our desires.

Tip out the water when you’re done. Some people report the water seems heavier at the end. Perhaps it is from the weight of all those things released.  That is something you’ll have to make up your own mind about.

The only thing that remains to be done is to watch for the changes to flow through your life, and to look forward to our positive outcome.

 

 

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The Silence of Africa

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I was once again privileged to have a short stop over in Africa.  There’s something about the silence of their bush that resonates with me.  Their wet season is their summer, not their winter.  This means the water lasts a lot longer and it supports a lot more life than Australia, though it is similarly arid.

The other thing that’s so striking about the wildlife here is how quiet it is – except when it’s roaring, of course. Most of the time the wildlife is sneaking around either trying to avoid being eaten, or trying to eat something.

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The smell of dinner

The silence is so full of life, it hums.  The whole air just vibrates with the resonance of life.  It is easy to believe that life, and human life, started here.

This is the second time I have been here and it just confirms how much I love their bush, its wildlife and the deep sense of life here.  It has a strong energy, a life force that informs the energy of all things that are touched by it.

Here the silence is so alive it is a physical experience of the void that is full, the void from which all life and all creation is manifested.

Here the silence is similarly full.

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Being in this silence is a blessing of the deepest kind.

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Imaginary friends prove the wisdom of play

For many years we have all been told that having imaginary friends is a sign of a disturbed mind, that it is some kind of delusion to compensate for deep issues. As someone with invisible (not imaginary) friends, I’ve always found this attitude a strange one as I’ve been keenly aware of the profound benefits of their company in my own life.

Now Evan Kidd, senior lecturer in psychology at ANU, has started the work for us to understand these relationships in a different way.  It’s clear he believes invisible friends are imaginary, but he has done some well-designed research to determine what, if anything, is the effect of having imaginary friends.  And he has found that having such friends has enormous benefits.

The video here is of Evan Kidd, talking at TedX at Sydney. I’ll let him tell you himself about the benefits. Primarily he’s found that having imaginary (or, I suppose, invisible) friends helps us greatly with developing our ability to talk to people in different realities, which is what we’re doing when we’re children and talking to adults.

As he sees this very much in terms of his study of the importance of play he’s been able to apply these understandings to how important it is for all of us to learn through play. It’s through play we develop such higher skills, and so begin the development of our own wisdom.

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The Power of Ecstasy, Brazilian Style

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Tuning into Ecstasy
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More ecstatic people on the planet. Yay!!

Last weekend we ran The Power of Ecstasy in a beautiful hidden spot outside Sao Paulo here in Brazil. I’m always inspired by watching participants open up to new levels of joy and abundance in their lives.

We welcomed back many familiar faces and some new ones as well. It was a very powerful workshop with all the participants opening to the new understanding that they can create through joy and ecstasy, rather than through negative states. This is such a new concept for many people it takes a while for it to catch on but once we share the practical skills the shifts we see are wonderful.

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A wonderful spot to do our soul work.

The feedback we’ve had since the workshop is that many of the participants have had life-changing shifts in awareness, self-connection and energy.  We’re looking forward to witnessing the expansion in their lives.

We are all meant to create this way – through the joy of being in the creative flow of the Universe. But, as always, it helps to know how!!

 

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Angkor Wat

Angkor WatI first began the Wesak retreats in 2003.  The purposes of the retreats in those days was to support the evolution of the collective consciousness in its shift from codependency to interdependency.  We knew, at the time, that a huge shift was due to take place in 2012 and we were working to hold space to enable this shift to be as easy and graceful as possible.  Since then we have not held another retreat, though we are pleased to support those who have held retreats of their own at the appropriate time.

Since 2012 the energy that has been coming into the planet during the Wesak period has been more about increasing our awareness of interdependency and the skills involved.  The qualitative shift that is required in moving from a right / wrong perspective to one where everything is understood to serve in one context or another is part of the reason why there has been a lot of confusion around in the last few years.  Whenever we learn something new we go through a period of confusion until the new skill begins to make sense to us.  This is where we are at currently.

I’m sorry if you haven’t been enjoying it.  I confess I haven’t found it all that comfortable myself.  There is good news and bad news, which happens to be the same news; this period of confusion is not due to finish until around Wesak in 2017.  Which is good or bad depending on how you’re feeling about the current confusion and continuing to deal with it for a while longer.

Here at Fractology we are aware that Wesak in 2017 will be significant as a consequence.  We are considering holding a retreat again during that year.  Our current thought is to hold it in Angkor Wat, in Cambodia, which is a powerful site of sacred geometries with deep connections on many levels.  We will give you more details as they come to hand.